Say So

if you’re crazy about someone soo much, then it’s near impossible to forget about them because of the impact that they left on you. however i do believe that you can move on. just remember that there are so many more people other there for you. there may be a hundreds of people who are better than that special someone. just say to yourself that you deserve better. don’t completely push that person out of your mind and world right away; just put that someone in the back of your mind, and open back up your doors. allow new opportunities to flow in. and maybe someday, you might find someone who is better than him/her, and that person likes you back. or maybe someday, that person will realize that he/she just let a great person slip away just like that. without giving them a chance.

I’m still in love with my first boyfriend and we broke up in May 2004. We still spoke until February when he told me he’s dating someone else. I think I’m over him sometimes but he always pops up in my head and probably always will. I guess I’ll move on when I find someone else as great as he is.

Well, HipHop, I have never found anyone who might bother with me, so I dont know how O can follow what you say

i’m to the point where i’m checking out spells on the web in order to try and forget the name or maybe the feeling i get when i’m around this guy. funny thing is, i’m not even around this guy, i’m an ocean away and his name hasn’t appeared in my inbox in what seems like ages. i run every day, but running only allows me to escape into the space in my head where i dream, and that isn’t helping. i want to forget. i want to forget. i want to forget but i want to remember later on. grrr. i want him to want me. (i’m sure he secretly does, who wouldn’t, right?) aach. this is ridiculous.

there are reasons why we try to forget abt these people one is that they’re someone u hate. and two is someone u care about. but wat hurts the most is someone u care abt and ur friendship hurts u..and u have no choice but to give up ur friendship..and try to move on..but they are still in ur head..u keep thinking about them..and ur heart will start ticking..u feel like it’s going to explode when u think abt that person u cared about..so it can’t be done.. the heart is teacherous..

I don’t really know. At the moment, I am fancying Steve Tyler (who is - arguably - the hottest rockstar ever), Anakin Skywalker (who is a ficional character) and (what’s worse) one nice, blonde, beautiful, but totally not-interested-in-me acquintance of mine. Sigh. The rule is, just don’t take it too seriously… and, well, live with it. Love is awkward, painful and embarassing at times, but what would we do without it?

its not your heart its your brain which make the stupid things you do.jelouisy is from within only you can stop it.

Afraid I hope it doesn’t work because I am hoping he comes back.. maybe he will maybe he won’t .. to try and forget him I have erased his number from my cell phone so I don’t get tempted.. I have so far been crawling the walls but I havent sent him that annoying I love you text!! Yiphee.. it’s been twenty four hours.. cruelly this morning his phone rang mine three times by accident right!! However, I refrained from answering it and got the answer machine message of him working in the background.. I think he did it deliberately .. but I guess I wont know.. anyway good luck to all those in pain etc I have decided to see if I can break my record of being without any communication with him and see if that helps.. x

im not from canada so excuse my wrighting ok :) i had a boyfriend for 7 years i love him alot but i know his not the right person for me so thats why i always broke up with him … so after all that i still love him so in this 7 years i broke up and then we get back togethere somehow now i know his not the one for me i really need some one elss but i cant i always i think of him and i cant forget him also i tried every single think i tooked a few courses dance sport work like in my mind i know that i dont want him coz also his a cheater and a lier and ( once a cheater always a cheater ) right although i cant imagine the idea of kising or doing anything with some one elss and thats the probleme 2 ..

I have the same situation as you guys. I ‘ve been married for 5 yrs and then last april he decided to be separated. I wasn’t surprise at all since i knew that this will be happening since he cheated on me last yr. I try to go far away from him i went to the east coast and while i was there he keep calling me and chatting with me. so i went back to california since i have a bad experience over there. I try to move on but it’s just hard especially when i told him that i will file a divorce after that he keep calling me and inviting me to hang out with him. Until now we still hanging out with each other and for sure we still doing it. I want to go on with my life but everytime i already “kinda” move on here he goes again, calling me and saying that he still cares for me and some bullshit words. I know that it’s all lies but i just can’t say no to him. That’s why right now i’m trying to find a job in the night time so that everytime he will call me i’m not available. It’s just hard to forget especially if we always see each other and hug and still have sex with each other. I think he already move on but me, i can’t but i’m trying.

I hope someone will advise me for this of what shall and i can do in this situation of mine. I know it’s really unfair to me but i still love him and care for him so much.

go FUCK SOMEBODY ELSE

Sad but true. Let your body teach you something new.

it took me enough time and dutch courage just to tell her how I felt….to actually talk to someone else enough to get laid? I don’t have the guts

Hey im in the same situation. Tried what m suggests on friday and although its great for self esteem, it wasnt enough for me. Dont go off fucking the first one come… love yourself first… live through your sorrow creatively and focus on the ones you love (family, friends, siblings)… be productive with the additionnal time you now have. Use it to become a better person. My best advice would be to perhaps take a risk and try something new (a class, a sport, a hobby) anything to occupy your time, hell you may find someone with the same interrests as you. Take this moment in your life to truly consider what you have become, and what you want to be. Understand why this person meant so much to you, what she gave you and invest in the new perspective on life you now have. In this time of fragility and instability, I find constructive behaviour to be the best of remedies. Just dont get down on yourself for too long, no one likes to be around sadness.

Hey im in the same situation. Tried what m suggests on friday and although its great for self esteem, it wasnt enough for me. Dont go off fucking the first one come… love yourself first… live through your sorrow creatively and focus on the ones you love (family, friends, siblings)… be productive with the additionnal time you now have. Use it to become a better person. My best advice would be to perhaps take a risk and try something new (a class, a sport, a hobby) anything to occupy your time. Take this moment in your life to truly consider what you have become, and what you want to be… its ok to dream. Understand why this person meant so much to you, what she gave you and the new perspective on life you now have. In this time of fragility and instability, I find constructive behaviour to be the best of remedies. Dont get down on yourself, your not alone in this situation… Hope this advice helped.

Hey im in the same situation. Tried what m suggests on friday and, although its great for self esteem, it wasnt enough for me. Dont go off fucking the first one come… love yourself first… live through your sorrow creatively and focus on the ones you love (family, friends, siblings)… be productive with the additionnal time you now have. Use it to become a better person. My best advice would be to perhaps take a risk and try something new (a class, a sport, a hobby) anything to occupy your time, who knows you may find someone with the same interrests. Take this moment in your life to truly consider what you have become, and what you aspire to be. Understand why this person meant so much to you, what she gave you and invest in the new perspective on life you now have. In this time of fragility and instability, I find constructive behaviour to be the best of remedies. Dont get down on yourself, no one likes to be around sadness.

channel all the emotional energy into something for sure, it’s good to be emotional, it means your more self aware. you will become a better person through this. don’t surpress the emotions through escapism like most modern minded people do (this is the reason that people don’t know how to recieve love anymore, they are out of touch with themselves.)

what i do: go running, kung fu, writing, painting, dance.

self esteem is important, you need to socialise with other potencial mates.. not in order to hook up with anyone but just so you have that input into your life.

TIME. That’s the only thing that will cure it. It may be months, it may be years. But along with time, you need to move on to someone else…after about six months. Just casual dating—you never know how it will turn out.

It is true…. being with someone else will help, not only your self esteem but your sexual energy that gets bottled up when your upset….

Well i was in a relationship with a girl for 8 years things were so good but suddenly out of the blue she backed off our engagement and off to marry someone else. What can a person do in this situation. well i defiintly am trying to overcome this especially when i always gave in to all her problems and issues and left my whole family education country for this girl. Never knew people like this existed sadly now i do. So i am gonna move on and think it as bad dream and learn something from it.

The cure is (and don’t laugh) “Nichiren Daishonin’s Buddhism”. Simply chant: Nam-myoho-renge-kyo”. (Check out the Tina Turner movie: What’s Love Got To Do With It”.) Just chanting (no joke!) EVERY CHANCE YOU GET! You’ll start to see changes. This is a progressive Buddhism. The belief is in a unirvisal “mytic law” and by chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, one taps into this mystic law (kinda of being “one” with the universe, the world. I know it sounds crazy but it is true. Try reading about it. Google SGI organization - it’s a website that explains this buddhism far better than me. I chant (pray) every morning and night for about 10 to half an hour (whatever you can do) and you’ll see your situation change. Some folks claim that I appear happier or brighter than I use to be.

The only thing I can convey to you is alot of things are about karma, our actions and by tapping into “this buddhism”, you become more wise, things become more clear and “LOGICAL”. The belief is that - any problem(s) we encounter in life was meant to be (I know you don’t want to hear but…) because of what we’ve done in our past life or this life time. And by hurting a little we are going through a cleasing process. By tapping into to this mystic law ( Note: helps when others chant with you!) , in the process you cleanse your karma. But the chanting alone is not the only thing. Their belief is that by helping others (and I’m not talking monetary). Smile at people, offer to assist other people, chant for other people’s happiness and you start to feel better. You pour yourself into doing good, you “think good thoughts”, you chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo (until you throat is hurting) and you’ll see changes. Often times, it may not be the change you want, but it’s a good change (for the better).

I have met people who where either in drugs, or simply in alot of pain, and they told me, they chanted for a few months or years and thier lives have completely changed! Believe me - I met qschool director, entertainers, lawyer and through chanting they got the job they were looking for or/and think with more clarity and understaing. Again, just check out that Tina Turner movie and you’ll get an idea of what I’m talking about.

I just needed to add: when we suffer (for whatever reasons), we gain wisdom. Only when you’ve walked someone shoes, hurt a little can you truly understand a situation (gain wisdom). YOU BECOME STRONGER! And it is this strengh that makes gives you the motivation and drive to pull away from “hurt” It is this WILL that starts to change the course of your life.

I don’t know what else to say to you folks other than, it does not hurt or cost any money to chant “Nam-myoho-renge-kyo”. It does not cost a dime. And it’s not crazy! I forgot to mention what Nam-myoho-renge-kyo stants for quote-

“The fundamental law of the universe expounded Nichiren Buddhism, it expresses the true aspect of life. Chanting it allows people to directly tap thietr entlighted nature and is the primary practice of SGI member. Although the deepest meaning of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is revealed only through its practice, the literal meaning is: Nam (devotion), the action of practicing Buddhism; myoho (Mystic Law), essential law of the universe and its manifestations; renge (lotus flower), the simultaneity of casue and effect; kyo (Buddha’s teaching), all phenomena.”

I wish you all a happy life and a speedy recovery from this “hurt”.

Mag

My relationship ended after 3.5 years, we have 3 kids together, a 6 yr old step son that I consider my own and 2 yr old twins. I have to see her all the time and that doesn’t help any, but when I get overwhelmed of the thoughts of someone else in my childrens lives and all the other upsetting things, I sing the song “can’t nobody break-a my stride can’t nobody slow me down” I don’t know who sings it or even the name but for what ever reason it cheers me up. It sucks the situations that we are in but all you can do is look at the bright side of what life has to offer because the stress these situations can cause will make you waste the positive fun things life has to offer.

just look for someone else, in the sea there is plenty of fishes

You shouldn’t want to force someone to want you, so leave them alone. If I’m interested in someone who doesn’t want me, I just don’t talk to them aanymore and I don’t go around them (if possible). Very soon, I will meet someone else that stimulates me. The best way to forget about someone is to have sex with a new partner! Never failed when I did it. In fact, I will say to myself “What did I ever see in that sexually repressed fool?”

Drink Drink Drink. Drinking is the cure for all ailments. They should just sell beer in hospitals. LOL. But yeah, i’m sure with enough alcohol all those brain cells that held memories of that person will be lost.

learn to hate not love it really works try it

I have to agree that fucking someone else is the best cure. It’s always worked for me in the past. All that it does is channel your feelings of intimacy onto someone else that you’re not in love with but it neutralizes your feelings for the one you are in love with and helps you to move on a lot faster. Worked for me in the past. (I’m a girl)

Go running with your ipod. Read a book. Join a dating site. Meet new people and most of all. DON’T CALL HIM/HER. Just leave him/her alone and let yourself heal.

I went through the same thing a few months before… I was like a puppy behind him. He was a jerk who shamelessly made me look like a fool in front of our friends, and from time to time, just to keep me, he would get really romantic and I would forget all he wrong he did. I was addicted! Then I told myself to get a grip! I gave him a big send-off, burned all photos, memos and everything that reminded me of him!! And smiled at the sweet and shy guy who’s been eyeing me for a while. Now I’ve got the best boyfriend in the world who loves me and treats me lke a queen… And I always feel mortified when I remember what a fool I’ve been…so get started!! FORGET HIM…True love is waiting for you around the corner!!

well i think the best choice for you is just try to live your life and only think about the person once in a wile

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There is a difference betwween love, lust, and infatuation. If your ex isn’t right for you, the attraction isn’t love. Lust and infatuation are normal, so welcome to the human race! Love is when you think that your mate is right for you, and vice-versa. Just continue to live your life. Everyone of your ex’s will be special to you in some way, so just enjoy the good memories.

when i was a young sap growing up in the ghetto i fell in love with my cat i don’t know why i just had a strong feeling in my epidermis and from that day i have loved my cat but now i have decided i will move on from my cat fatty at the age of five i was diagnosed with aids because me and my cat made love in this club my cat broke my heart when it ran out side and got hit by an eighteen wheeler it was chasing after a squirrel this is where my gay pal farmer jack fits into the story he was singing in meadow while shaving his legs i saw him and i laufed and then he fell and snapped his neck and i laufed lllllllmmmmmmmmmmmmmaoooooooooooooooooooooo im sorry i dont find da point in dis website can someone plz explain it to me?????????