I’m just out of college and have never lived in one place outside of my home state for more than a few months. I’ve accepted a job in a complety different part of the country and, despite knowing a little bit about the area, I am hesitant about the move. For starters, I don’t know anyone in the city. This might not be too much of an issue once I get there, but because I live far away and am moving so soon I won’t have a chance to get there to look personally for a place to live. I’ve resorted to finding an apartment over the internet. Because I won’t be paid that much I will be forced to live with people, which in my case will be strangers. I’ve found an apartment that sounds great, but I’m hesitant about moving in with strangers.
Well I couldn’t possibly imagine how you must feel, I’ve never been in a situation like this. But I’d look into who you’re going to be living with, maybe run some background checks etc. Meeting new people is always a little awkward, but as long as you’re yourself and you be kind to them, you may make some lifetime friends. I dream of moving to Japan when I’m older, I hear the people there are very nice. Though I would like to believe everyone everywhere is nice, it’s just not easy to believe anymore. Go with your instincts on this one bro.
I’m doing the same thing just out of grad school. As far as living with strangers….well thats part of growing up. Sometimes you’ll get an ass of a roomate that you cant stand. Sometimes you’ll get an average guy who is a solid roomate. Sometimes you;ll be friends. If the place sounds great, take it and remember that you are all in your 20’s….be adults and be civil with each other.
I moved to college in a city where I knew no one and had never been there… then after college I moved to Chicago where I knew no one… it’s hard at first, I’ll admit… but make some efforts to meet people and things fall into place. As far as roommates go, take them with a grain of salt. You don’t HAVE to be their best friends. It’s cool if you are but if not, it’s someone to pay for part of a kick ass apartment. You’ll be fine, dude. It is “part of growing up.” (God, I’m only 25 and I already sound like my dad).
I hightly endorse it! When i finished school i move to a city where i knew no one. It worked out well. Unless you’re a social retard, you’ll meet people. Recently, i just up and left that city to move to Chicago, where i’m looking for a job and having fun living in a new city. Looking forward to meeting more new people here. I love it.
I moved from England to NYC this year in the same situation of 3 roommates I didn’t know and no-one I knew in the country plus a different culture. It’s hard at first and you ptobably will get a little homesick (happened worst about 2 months in with me). This passes - when you get beyond that it will probably be one of the best experiences of your life.
HI Josh: Go for it! It’s a great move and hopefully the room mates will turn out ok. But at least it’s a start and once there can take your time, if not satisfied, and look for another apartment. Some friends of mine have moved from places like Spokane to here in New England and said it’s the best move they ever made. Job opportunities can also bring with them great new experiences in living.
Wow - how exciting! You’ve gotten some great advice above about roommates. I encourage you to absorb the new area like a sponge! There are so many people who never get a chance to see anything different than the spot where they were born. Consider it to be a great opportunity, and hopefully you’ll get past the homesickness quickly and move on to experiencing the new culture!
Certainly a bittersweet experience. I myself have done the same thing. Years ago I made a temporary move to Florence Italy. As in your case I had to move in with strangers. Furthermore both the language and customs were foreign to me. Now I am currently back home, but will be going out to Florence again soon. Even though I’ve made some friends in that wonderful city, I feel just as nervous as my first time there. Moving is never easy no matter how many times you’ve done it. My only advice is to be open minded and diplomatic at first. As soon as you get your feet wet, then you may be more confident in your many encounters. But remember that you are the stranger in a well established community. Therefore it is your job to accomodate to their needs.
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